Shoe Shopping Is Like Dating

Shoe shopping is like dating in many ways. Let’s take a look at how they are similar in this scenario.

You desire to have a good partner like a really good pair of athletic shoes. The shoes you want to invest in, you want to keep for a long period of time. You go to several locations who do not seem to have your style or selection but after some diligent research, you come to a store that looks promising. You walk towards the section for athletic shoes passing the dress shoe section. The shoes there look enticing to try on however, you’ve had a lot of dress shoes and they are no longer what you desire so you continue to the athletic section.

Your first walk through the section, you choose some from the shelf that appeals to your eyes only. These are the shoes that made you go WOW! at first glance. 

Your second walk through the section, you choose some from the shelf that is attractive but did not originally stand out to you. 

Your third walk through the section, you choose some from the self that you have read the reviews on or heard good things about.

You try on the shoe to see how well it fits. Keep in mind, you must try on these shoes with care. You can not walk around the store for an hour. You are not allowed to knock the shoes against the side of the walls to see how resilient they are and you may not bend the toes. These actions would damage the shoes and when the next person comes along to try on the shoes they may have visible and non-visible defects or scuff marks. The shoes will forever be changed and these changes may never be repaired. The next person who desires that shoe will most likely get it at a discount and the shoe may never perform the way it was meant to. 

You have now narrowed your choices to 3 pairs of shoes you really like. You try them (date them) several times deciding with each try what features are more important to have. Things you may consider are; Do you have a high arch? Do you have flat feet? Do the shoes need to be wide enough for an orthopedic brace or pads? Do brand and color matter? Which shoe will allow you to get the end result you are trying to achieve?

All things considered, you choose the pair that is best for you. You’re actually surprised to find out the pair you chose is a size above your normal shoe size or what you would have chosen. They feel comfortable and from your observation, they will provide you with the level of support you want and need. These are the shoes you commit to and walk away smiling with. 

The dating process can be challenging when you are not focused or understand what you are truly looking for in a partner. Dating can also be a rewarding experience when you take the time to handle the process with care. It is okay to date multiple people until you decide who is a good fit for you. It is your responsibility to respect others and be your authentic self. This allows you to make great choices in love. 

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